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16 August, 2005 - 9:33 p.m. In Sheep's Clothing: Understanding and Dealing With Manipulative People by... Go to Amazon and scroll down to 'Look inside this book'... it will give you an idea. The term is Covert -Agressive (CA) and there are too terribly many examples of my married life, my own fears and doubts.... were the events in my home being recorded? Very creepy. From another website: "In other situations, the CA can justify faking behaviors he considers to be "illogical" as necessary for his survival in a world populated by bitter enemies - people so envious of his superiority that they will band together for no other purpose than to persecute, enslave and destroy him for it." "The second way in which fantasy and denial of reality figure into the distorted thinking equation arises from the first. The CA's choosing of his own "reality" over the reality of the world doesn't in any way mean that he has stopped wanting the many benefits which follow from being in tune with the latter reality. These benefits include all things socially conferred: relationships with their whole packages of positive effects; opportunities for advancement; financial gain; material comfort and possessions; esteem and respect from others; and even sometimes one's very freedom. Shirking the world's reality doesn't mean the CA feels he's disqualified himself from receiving these benefits. On the contrary, he feels more entitled to and deserving of them than ever. His "reality," after all, is the true one, the one that the masses would perceive if, again, they weren't so inferior to him. He is therefore more, not less, entitled to the benefits he sees those around him enjoying." Bottom line, if you 'gut' is telling you there is something wrong, but you just can't quite put your finger on it.... likely you are being worked over by a Covert-Agressive person. Manipulation at its finest. Damn creepy if you ask me. � � |